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If the monsters get in, we go to the roof.





*very quiet voice* queer spaces need to be safe for people of faith too 

I don’t think about this enough. How do I make spaces more inclusive to people of faith.

By not talking about how silly and gross religion is and by not comparing sexuality to other things forbidden in the Old Testament like shrimp, etc.

Also by insulting the laws of Leviticus saying they are “impossible to live by haha so funny shrimp is banned” is excluding lgbtqia+ Jewish people bc Jewish ppl follow those laws and for the most part are pretty good with including lgbtqia+. Obviously not all Jewish ppl/organizations/communities are good with this but they are for the most part

By not excusing or condoning statements that religion needs to be “wiped out,” like you wouldn’t accept that statement about any other human trait.


Every dudebro who says these women shouldn’t have taken private nude photos on themselves and then put them on a secure, private server if they didn’t want everyone in the world to see them should have to have every message they have ever sent on OKC dramatically read to their boss, mom, and granny

(via into-the-weeds)


…i strut before my eyes, like a stranger


…i strut before my eyes, like a stranger

I hope you all find yourselves sleeping with someone you love, maybe not all of the time, but a lot of the time. The touch of a foot in the night is sincere. I hope you like your work, I hope there’s mystery and poetry in your life — not even poems, but patterns. I hope you can see them. Often these patterns will wake you up, and you will know that you are alive, again and again.

—Eileen Myles, “Universal Cycle.” The Importance of Being Iceland. (via winesburgohio)

(via lichgem)


helpful, pt. 2


helpful, pt. 2


90% of Stage Managing is writing passive aggressive emails

(via thankyoufive)


• Vintage indie blog •


• Vintage indie blog •

(Source: happiness-comes-in-a-box, via moonandtrees)


I will however try to protect people who could use it.  But that does mean it can’t be “at any cost” because you need to be able to weigh and understand problems with the kind of protection that you are giving.  Especially when they themselves are saying “no, that cost is too high”.

Gonna be one of those three-shower days, apparently.

I’m sitting in a coffee shop with an outdoor back porch, and it’s doing that thing my grandfather loved to talk about where it’s pouring rain out the front door, and sunny and not a drop out the back.  Seriously.



Does anyone know of any blogs that talk about being autistic and nonverbal?

Non tumblr blogs are great. I’m taking a disability studies class and we have to do a presentation on a disabled person’s blog.

I would like to do one by someone else that’s autistic since that’s what I’m familiar with, and I think nonverbal people’s viewpoints don’t get discussed enough.

I’m autistic and nonverbal.  But I have not been nonverbal all my life, I have a condition called autistic catatonia that causes some people to lose speech at some point later on (in my case I lost it very gradually, but it was gone by my early twenties — I also had a lot of communication problems even when I had speech, so there’s nothing straightforward about this at all).  As long as you understand that (and don’t try to paint me as someone who’s always been nonverbal), there’s my blog on tumblr, and also I have a blog at http://ballastexistenz.wordpress.com

There’s also Amy Sequenzia, at http://nonspeakingautisticspeaking.blogspot.com/

I think she’s always been nonverbal, if that makes a difference to you.

There is also Emma’s Hope Book, Ido in Autismland, Henry Frost, and Sarah Stup.

If you haven’t seen the documentary film “Wretches and Jabberers,” it’s a good one.

(via humainsvolants)


"Nothing is ever enough. But we live, and we try."

And also….and I do not mean this to excuse any of the more screwed up narrative about disability in What Katy Did, but it was also on the button about some of the screwed up stuff we’re still dealing with now…

Like that Helen has this humor and sense of frivolty, and the younger siblings are basically like “Is she being a bad sick person by wanting to look pretty and having pretty things and being happy???”

And she’s like “No, fuck that.”  

(Not in those words, because this was a children’s book from the 19th century, but still.)

I mean, it’s basically the same format of discussion that we’re still having here:

Non-autistic people:  omg you can’t make jokes about autism!!!  It’s a very serious and tragic thing!!!

Autistic people:  [eyeroll]


Autistic people:  Your kids need disabled role models.

Parents: ???

There is just some intensely mixed messaging going on in that book.



I was rereading my old Katy books today and cracking up over that rivers game she and Clover play near the beginning.  Pisses me off so much that Coolidge made her so boring after the accident.  Surely she could have kept her sense of mischief as well as learning to be kind and patient??  What happened to her wild imagination, love of adventure and habit of picking up friends in all places (including an incarcerated thief lol) basically it’s a personality wipe.  Not to mention a good dose of the Saintly Cripple although at least she’s not as bad as bloody Cousin Helen, Mary Sue of the century.  I still love the books but Coolidge really screwed up her character development.  YOUR MAIN CHARACTER CAN CONQUER HER FLAWS WITHOUT TURNING INTO A CARDBOARD SAINT WHOSE WILDEST EXPLOIT IS STARTING AN ANTI-FLIRTING CLUB ok

What amazed me about the whole School Of Pain thing (smooth your forehead out with your fingers so nobody sees you’re in pain, my ass… seriously?) was that nothing has changed.  As in, that whole passage could have been in a modern book and it would not have been out of place at all.  Our attitudes to disability are literally Victorian in many ways.

For those unaware, we’re talking about a series of books called What Katy Did, written in the Victorian era for children.  And there’s this section where the main character becomes disabled, and she doesn’t get out of bed and lies in the dark because the light hurts her eyes and stuff.  So her dad makes her permanently-disabled cousin Helen come over and teach her how to be a “good invalid”.  That section is really, really hard to read, knowing that people still buy into the same ideas that made that section of the book possible.  It’s all about how as an invalid she should make her entire life be for other people, and not show anyone she’s in pain because that just makes people uncomfortable, and do everything for other people and nothing for herself, and not ever feel bad about being disabled even if she’s in severe pain, and etc. etc. etc. it’s just really awful.  

The books are available for free online, and if you do a search for “school of pain” or something along those lines you can find that section, if you want to see it in all its horrible glory.

I actually read this book for the first time fairly recently.  This is all true, and truly obnoxious, and yet…there were a few things I appreciated about Katy’s and Helen’s story.

1.  There’s no miracle cure, or miracle breakthrough from someone else’s heroic efforts or something.  Katy gets better, but it takes a serious amount of time.

2.  Depiction of a disabled kid having a disabled adult mentor.  (And of a parent understanding implicitly that she needed one.)

3. Depiction of disabled people having to know things and having to develop skill sets that non-disabled people don’t.

4.  Disabled women deliberately defying the stereotypes readily available to them, and finding ways to demonstrate power and competence (like Katy deciding that she can in fact run her household from bed, and doing it).

Although there were a few additional things that made the storytelling obnoxious to me, like…

1.  I’m pretty sure that better pain relief existed even then, than the total lack thereof that Katy is given…

2.  Which provides the excuse for a little while that she’s in too much pain even to sit up in a wheelchair, however…apparently no thought is given to making the house more accessible to Katy, or like, giving her a room on the ground floor instead of the second floor so she can get around…even though by the time we see her able to come back downstairs, other major renovations have been made to the house.

And just in general, it felt like a lot of things were made the case for the sake of the story trajectory that in no way actually had to be that way.

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