requirements: 10 years experience in space station repair, masters degree in ancient serbian civilizations, unmatched knowledge of silkworm breeding, full understanding of teleportation mechanics and physics
If you’re Christian I hope you don’t believe asexuality exists because you are implying you and/or others are immune from sinful lust, which is applying divine properties to humans and therefore defying crucial theological principles.
It’s just in asexuals are actually have divine properties
lmao oh my goodness
finally the recognition i deserve, the godly kind
This has been your “Oh…wow…” for the day.
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I actually can’t stand the term “special interest.”
The only way to answer this question is for you to decide if you agree with the person who told you that you’re probably autistic or the person who told you that you’re not. The question of appropriation isn’t nearly as important as figuring out how you identify and why.
Occam’s razor: Is autism more likely to explain the majority of what you experience more simply than alternative explanations? Did the person who said “yes” or the person who said “no” take more accurate information into account in their opinion?
Also, those experiences (stimming, obsessions, shutdowns) are not exclusive to autistic people. You could figure out that you’re not autistic, and those terms are still perfectly okay for you to use to describe particular phenomena.
(Like, MOST people will experience shutdowns or meltdowns under a high enough threshold of stress. Autistic people just have particularly sensitive tripwires when it comes to certain kinds of stress.)
Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, "Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"
I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.
I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”
Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.
Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.
It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.
It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.
Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:
Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.
Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.
Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.
Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”
TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:
- You do not respect their rights as an individual.
- You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.
- You probably haven’t been listening to them.
Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.
I’m glad you were there to tell the audience not to do that!
I never cease to be astonished at how easily most people apparently forget what it was actually like to be a kid, what it felt like to have effectively no control over your life or belongings, what it felt like to not be able to trust your parents.
I am constantly amazed.
SO THE DOCTOR’S OFFICE FINALLY CALLED ME
ALL MY LABS CAME BACK NORMAL
the person on the phone said, and i quote, “there is no reason you should be having these symptoms”
they referred me to a rheumatologist.
HAHAHA THIS IS INCREDIBLE
IT’S NOT A SIMPLE ANEMIA ISSUE. WE HAVE NO IDEA WHAT IT IS
I would really, really, really suggest asking for a hard copy of your results.
I was once having a collection of bizarre and scary symptoms.
The doctor’s office called and said “All tests normal.”
I asked for a hard copy, just on a whim.
One result was actually really obviously not normal. They just didn’t think that one thing could possibly be causing those symptoms, so they decided it wasn’t relevant enough to tell me.
Bet you can guess how this story ends.
She’s welcome to it for as long as her human will keep it around! (We both live in little apartments.)