Health insurance that I lose every 6 months is not insurance. By definition.
Your favorite disgruntled stage manager
Formative book for me, as recommended by Robert Rodriguez. I’ve actually never finished it, as every time I get a copy I end up giving it away.
I will have to read this….
I’m afraid to have my own children; I’m afraid my extremely high-functioning, mild asperger’s syndrome will produce severely low-functioning autistic children. What’s worse, is that I see autism as being a wonderful thing, but I fear I could never handle the stress of raising this type of child.
For what it’s worth: There is strong evidence (both from personal knowledge of mine and journals and memoirs) that at least four of my direct ancestors, going back to the 1830’s, have been autistic. One after another, autistic parents had autistic children. And we just don’t have the records to know whether they would have been considered “high” or “low” functioning as children, but they grew up to be things like army nurses, doctors, farmers, artists, professional psychics (seriously), journalists, writers, engineers…and parents, every single one. And some of them were incredibly happy and satisfied with their lives, and some were incredibly lonely and alienated without ever being able to understand why, and some built themselves lives and families more or less indistinguishable from normal if you weren’t looking too closely, and some didn’t. And I would dare say that some of the autistic ones have been more happy and satisfied than some of our non-autistic relatives.
But it seems to me that they all believed in just living the heck out of your life. And they did. And since they never knew of any reason why they should hesitate to have children, they just had children. And the point of this is not to say “oh, don’t worry, look, my autistic grandparents all had autistic kids and we were all fine,” it’s that life is just…people say “life is what happens when you’re making other plans,” but I don’t think that’s quite right. We just all do the best we can, and that’s really it.
And lots of the “mildly” affected among us are desperately miserable with their lives, while lots of the more severely disabled are fairly happy. I think it has a lot to do with finding out what you really like to do, and someplace to do it that makes you feel useful and loved.
In one of the first shows I ever worked on, there was a line, “Be bold. Be brave. Live your life. That’s all there is.” And I go around telling myself that a lot.
If you’re going to have children at all, you may have a severely disabled child no matter what. Any of us could have a severely disabled child and have it be totally unrelated to our autism. So the fact that we could have a more severely autistic child is pretty arbitrary. We’ll raise that child as best we can, the same as we’d raise some other type of severely disabled child as best we could. I don’t think very many people think that they would have the energy to raise a severely disabled child, until they have to do it. And then most of them just do it. We would all just do what we had to do, exactly like we always have.
All of us just live the lives we’re given to live.
(But I fear these things, too. Not that kids are even on the horizon for me right now. But reading a few parent blogs of more severely autistic kids has helped a lot. Just to know what the full range of possibilities is, and how people learn to deal with it, and give each other knowledge and support.)
…ministers shall be putting forth a bill by the end of the year that allows gay marriage. And, churches will not be forced into marrying them. Which means that nobody has to do something they don’t want to. Where’s your freedom now America?
Awww, my little Scotland! <3
Do any other autistics on tumblr have perfect pitch (or near perfect pitch)?
If you do, how do you deal with it? I sometimes get anxious when things are out of tune. Maybe it’s true for other people.
I’m the reverse. And I never hear about autistics who are the reverse.
It’s not that I can’t sing in tune, it’s that it takes hella effort, I sound like a cartoon, and I’m often typecast in performing as antagonists and drunks.
I’m the reverse!
We need to ban light. I mean, come on. A particle that’s simultaneously a wave? How am I supposed to explain that to my children?
Not bad. Audience happy as ever. Just weird. Like the entire show was a couple beats off of its own time stream or something. Everyone felt it. No one knows why.
And now for an egg and cheese sandwich.
This has become especially relevant with some of the posts that I have seen in the past couple of hours. I suppose this one applies to asexual and grey-a people as well. People are usually quick to vocalize why they believe that the sexual orientations along the asexual spectrum are, by their very nature, slut-shaming. Demisexuality is a sexual orientation. Slut-shaming is a behavior.
The fact that I am allergic to peanuts does not mean that I hate people who put peanut butter on everything they eat. Being in a monogamous relationship does not imply the judgement of people who are polyamorous, or vice-versa. How then is someone saying “I really do not feel sexual attraction or desire except for the rare occasion when I have a strong emotional relationship with someone,” shaming anyone? It may be irritating for you if you desire to have a one night stand with that person and they aren’t interested, but really, their orientation is not a judgement on anyone else’s. Are demisexual/asexual/grey-a people capable of slut-shaming? Yes, but so are people of every other orientation. Every member of the asexual community I have ever discussed this issue with has basically said the same thing, which can be summarized as “I respect your right to make whatever sexual decisions you choose, please return the favor and respect mine as well.” I will not judge you if you have all the sex in the world. You are allowed to do so. If you enjoy it, and no one is being harmed in the process, I’m happy that you are happy. It’s not for me, but I am perfectly happy being me.
Bolded mine. Love, love love love.
- Dumbledore: The dark forest is strictly forbidden to all students
- Dumbledore: Except for detention
- Dumbledore: Where you will be forced to wander around when it's darkest and scariest
- Dumbledore: Doesn't that make so much sense
- Dumbledore: I'm so good at rules
If This Isn’t From a Book, It Should Be (via gaircyrch)
Oooh, that’s good!
I will so use this.