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geographically speaking, in the northern hemisphere. socially, on the margins. narratively, with some way to go.

Another problem with “gifted”

josiahd:

How many of us odd people passed as just smart, or just acting weird because of being too smart for normal behavior and classes?

And how many of us knew we’d better fake being good at academic subjects, and pretend to know things we really didn’t? Because if we didn’t, then we’d just be freaks with no obvious reason, and no way to make it acceptable?

Because we saw what happened to kids like us who *weren’t* considered gifted.

It is really, really scary to think what would’ve happened to me if I weren’t as smart as I am.

I didn’t have to do a lot of faking being good at academics…I was, and I played that game to the hilt because it was the only one I could, and I knew that that was how I was getting the hell away from a place where I was never going to be able to have a real life for myself.

But I did indeed see that other people’s arbitrary perceptions about your intelligence could and did have seriously bad consequences.  As it was, almost every member of my family managed bizarrely to treat me utterly simultaneously as ridiculously brilliant and r******d.  And without the ridiculously brilliant, there would’ve been only the latter, and to think what could’ve been done to me over and above what was, is scary as shit.

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  2. hatey-mchaterson reblogged this from josiahd and added:
    The thing that always bothered me more than anything was when people accused me of “not living up to my full potential.”...
  3. josiahd reblogged this from bindingaffinity and added:
    This really has to stop. Because everyone’s so afraid not to do that. And people’s pride gets in the way of their...
  4. yesthattoo reblogged this from fuckyeahintellectualgiftedness and added:
    The two interacted for me. I only couldpull off the “smart kids are weird” thing because I actually am also gifted, and...
  5. fuckyeahintellectualgiftedness reblogged this from josiahd and added:
    How many of us Gifted peoples are just smart, and act weird because of being too smart to behave on-par in classes?
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  7. bindingaffinity reblogged this from josiahd and added:
    I don’t know if this is just how I feel about math, or if it’s what my math skills really are (or in this case, aren’t)....
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  9. xeduo reblogged this from kinigget and added:
    this. all of this.
  10. kinigget reblogged this from tal9000 and added:
    I was luckier still: Not only am I truly quite intelligent, my mom has Aspergers Syndrome just like I do and worked with...
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  14. calidork reblogged this from cupcakearrow and added:
    I was always called gifted. And I don’t believe I worked half as hard during grade school and college as others in my...
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  16. cupcakearrow reblogged this from lunasspecto and added:
    I also really hate that word. I was that quiet kid who read a lot and was anti-social and picked on by the other kids...
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  18. 3geek14 reblogged this from yesthattoo and added:
    So I didn’t learn states and capitals until I memorized the Animaniacs song. I still don’t know them, but I can do a...
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    How is it that there are people describing each detail of my life on the internet and yet when I’m out in the world I...
  21. lunasspecto reblogged this from sherlocksflataffect and added:
    This sounds pretty familiar.
  22. astheshadowslovethecastle reblogged this from sherlocksflataffect and added:
    Yep. When I was causing trouble in class and my father was called in he told the teacher that they should test me for...
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  24. adventures-of-cuteella reblogged this from chavisory and added:
    Oh, my natal immediate and extended family specifically said I was both and that they didn’t know what to do with me...
  25. girljanitor reblogged this from adventures-of-cuteella and added:
    Hmm…I would have to have been far more aware that other people existed in order to do most of that, I think. I mean, yes...
  26. sherlocksflataffect reblogged this from chavisory and added:
    ^Same.
  27. chavisory reblogged this from josiahd and added:
    It is really, really scary to think what would’ve happened to me if I weren’t as smart as I am. I didn’t have to do a...
  28. yesthattoo said: ME! “Gifted people are weird” was the official explanation for me until a few months ago.
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